The genetic bandhan

To have a baby is always a joint decision but the difficult part (the painful part), is always in the stride of the woman.Guess we are capable of handling the internal and external pressures at the same time....lol. So, when me and my man decided to let our heart walk outside our bodies and dance on our heads..literally...I was pretty sure that the God is in the process of creating a magnificent small wonder for me. As the first trimester went by and took along its partner in crime, the much despised morning sickness and acidity aunt reduced its frequent visits to my would-be-penguin body, I could actually get hold of my thoughts and dwell in the imagination of THE LITTLE MIRACLE who was to be downloaded in next few months.
The man of the house had much to worry, namely the due date so that he can plan his leaves and the  awesome killing looks of the baby that he thought would automatically be transferred to him by some instant pen drive. AHHH....that was indeed quite a contribution in the entire process.
 After all this, I was pretty much sure that God would be very kind and generous in taking cues from me while sculpting my miracle.NO NO NO........i am not a feminist at all before you jump on any conclusions. I DESPISE silly feminism for the sake of haunting the poor men. So, as much I wanted my miracle to be  replica of me in looks, I wanted the baby to inherit his fathers brain and other many such traits that I am proud of......don't ask me to count those now..have to think..;);)
So you see, life was pretty much sorted until my penguin body finally gave in and was in the mood to let go off the miracle in this awesome world. The emergency c-section software was run on and after few hitches the miracle was downloaded.
Day 5- hospital
Visitors - " The baby is completely on his father...bilkul baap pe"
Inlaws- "pulkit jaisa hai ekdum.....muahhh"
My mom- "Sirf eyes teri hain"

Month 5
 The sonny boy sleeps like his dad.
Month 12
The lil dude tries combing his hairs like his father....the side partition
After 2 years
mommy daddy in argument mode....boy says " noooo mama" and hugs his father

I sit there scratching my head...!!

At this moment
The sonny boy staring at me with his father like eyes and telling me to fetch him a glass of "pann" .
Yes boss....sure i will....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

P.S.
I am extremely proud of both the rock stars in my life.....:)

Death by selfie

Blame it up on the era of smartphones or instagram, the pouty selfie obsession is rising at a unprecedented rate. And that's perfectly alright as long you are able to flaunt your newly done eyebrows and that coral lip color. I myself had a huge selfie obsession long back and trust me I never used mirror during that time as my cell phone was duly trained to act as the witched mirror and answer my whims; "Mirror mirror who is the prettiest of all?. More  than the intolerance debate,  what worries me is the rate at which the selfie deaths are increasing and that tells me something is creepy about this selfie obsession. Though being a  saggi, I got over it long back but am still amused at the on-your-face expressions of the people while clicking selfie.The other day I was literally horrified at the sight of the lady clicking a selfie with her puppy inside the lift and flaunting a  puppy face.I swear i feel pity for the puppy who had to endure the tight cuddle  and bear with the obsession. Talking about the puppy face, i still doubt who flaunted the better puppy expression(winks). BTW, she forgot to step out on her turn.

The recent death of a boy while clicking a selfie on a  rail track is worrying. Time to rethink over the value of your life to your loved ones. That pout can wait surely but death carrier wont.
Use those pout at some better places...obviously not on a deadly spot. Flaunt yourself, express yourself,love yourself...but please please please don't invite the sexy looking death carrier by any chance.
Keep dreaming
CHEERS....!!!!

The Odd even homeconomics

Hope you guys are having a  stupendous start of the year and all your resolutions, have at least been posted on the social media, if not been implemented. After all, that is what resolutions are meant to be..nah!!! After the historical odd even formula being implemented for a fortnight, I am intrigued by the economics of it.The intellectual brains put to work to design it, must have had a nasty fight at home and the end result was this epic and ill- logical scheme. Before I am convicted for speaking my weirdo mind out or before some political Sabu (remember the muscular alien from Chacha chaudhri) sits on a hunger strike after reading my non-cooperation post, I would like to ponder on the odd even homeconomics , if it were to be applicable in my domestic territory. What if the household chores were divided on  this basis and women get a alternate day off from the internal affairs. AHH...SOUNDS LIKE SOME SUGAR COATED MELODY to me .I mean imagine one day the man does the laundry and the other day the woman takes the car to the service center.(Role  reversal...ahaan). 

It would be really difficult to predict the success of this scheme in any domestic territory, but yeah..this would definitely bring back some fun in the monotonous life.So, our Sabu can be really happy that his scheme is quite a inspiring one.

The success of the marriage is anyways in this odd even scheme which is not very often realized. One day the man of the house goes out and have fun with his friends and the other day, the wife goes out and celebrate...of course with HER friends.......no jokes please..!!!

P.S. The quality of the household chores performed by the husbands is a not a matter of litigation...!!!!

CHEERS...

Finding a perfect match

It is said “You fall in love not by finding a perfect person, but by seeing a imperfect person perfectly”.  To a certain extent, it is true also, after all nobody is perfect in this world. But what is important here is to find someone who is well deserving of his imperfectness being ignored. When it comes to our loved ones we often get irrational, don’t we? So we are back to square one, how to find someone who is just the right one for you or should I say, “The perfect match”.

We lead such a hectic and fast paced life that very often we don’t realize the value of people in our lives when they are there. The chances of a broken relationship increases when there is a difference in what we aspire for and what we land up with.  Globally, the rate of failed marriages is increasing which is a area of concern.

One of the most prominent reasons for a failed marriage is a “imperfect marriage”. It’s kind of weird but many a times the reasons for falling apart are the same that brought you together. Blame it on adrenaline rush or whatever, people get so pumped up while dating that they end up getting married , in the heat of the moment. A typical “Happy ever after” tale where there is nothing happy ever after…!!! Life initially is pink and flowery but once you get over your fantasies, that you realize may be it was too early to take the plunge. The problem here is not a imperfect partner but definitely a incompatible partner, who doesn’t fit your set of priorities and needs.

So the BIG question is what are the do’s and don’ts , that one must have in his/her mind when it comes to finding your soul mate.  Finding your perfect someone is not that difficult but to hang on to him is definitely not so easy…J

Here are few tit bits that will surely help you find your soul mate:

1.       Know what you want

We all are unique for we have different needs and aspirations and before getting into any relationship, be sure of what you want out of it. Don’t go with the flow but follow your  heart because unless you are sure of what you want in your life, nobody would know.

2.       Ready , Steady and go

Don’t fall for someone just because all your friends have their dates to accompany them to the ball rooms or clubs. This is one thing you need to ask yourself whether you are ready for it or not. Don’t rush yourself  and take your time. Get prepared up there in your mind and just go for it..!!!

3.       Talk, talk, talk and more talk

That’s the key my dear. One thing that can piss off any relationship is lack of communication.  I understand we all lead busy lives but lil effort pays you in long run. Infact we are lucky in terms of technology here. Page, sms, blackberry ping, call, mail or do what you can but the banter should not end. There’s nothing better than a starbucks coffee and a chit chat with your someone special. Trust me , it will do wonders. Follow your heart and speak your mind and you are right there man.

4.       Explore

We all are different human beings with varied taste, desires, hobbies, mindset and temperament. Explore what all you can do together and its real fun. You both will have different opinions but variety is the spice of life, isn’t it. Stretch your comfort zone and open up yourself.

5.       Setting the priorities

While you look out for your perfect someone, its very important to set your priorities . Your priorities should decide your partner and not vice versa. Similarly you have to accept your partner with their set of values . People come with their baggage and should not be burdened with a “ to do list”. Accept them the way they are because u fell in love with the person and rest all is a package deal :)

6.       Oblivious to the obvious

Yes, there are times we need to ignore what seems to be very obvious. You cannot hold on to grudges and letting them go is the key to a blissful association.  Let go of your Ego and bend a little, afterall that’s better than to break down.

All of the tit bits do not work in all real time situations but they do act as a catalyst. There is only key to a perfect match. Either you fall in love or get loved.  And if you find that difficult , there is a long list of matrimonial websites willing to help you. And who knows, you might end up finding your soulmate. The medium is not important but the end result is.  Trust your partner, and believe in love, and you will find your soulmate in him.

CHEERS..!!!